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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

And the answer is.....

First things first - If you don't know what the question is, go back and read this post.

The guy chose his mother. No surprises there, I suppose.
I would have loved it if he, like Sra suggests, had said they are both great cooks.....his ma makes vathal kozhambu or whatever it is well, while his wife makes a mean schezwan fried rice. But no, the answer popped out of his mouth almost as soon as the question was asked.
The wife said she had no issues with that, but then, the MIL went on to say that it was "already" 3 years after their marriage and the DIL "still" didn't know how to cook.
I felt so sorry for the DIL.....how can anyone say such a thing on national TV? How can she ever forgive her MIL for saying that....or her husband for standing by and saying nothing to defend her?
And what is with the "already three years"? Is there a time limit on these things....as in, the day after you become married, you have to prove that you are a master chef?
These people forget that this young girl was in all respects just like her husband until she got married. She studied, had a good time at home and with friends, and quite likely, spent very little time in the kitchen. While he can still do as he pleases, she is expected to change overnight. Isn't that grossly unfair???

8 comments:

Srivalli said...

Oh that is such a stupid question! And even more stupid on the part of the MIL to talk like that. I think media is having fun putting people in spot like this right.

Priti said...

Ahh as expected....ya that's bad to say such things ...the world is like tht!

aquadaze said...

That is just so insensitive!

sra said...

well after all, no one can take care of her son like she does - everyone falls short, don't they? and what better a forum than tv to vomit all the three years of venom she's accumulated? I hope the wife didn't look on with a doting smile but made her displeasure unknown.
I went to dinner at a relative's house where there were other guests.Aunty had cooked everything and one of the women asked her if the new DIL had made anything. So Aunty said no, she's not used to cooking yet. Thrn the other lady said what has she studied,so aunty said B Sc. So this lady says, oh, she's only a graduate, why couldn't she have learnt cooking, it's not as if she's done post graduation!!! Aunty looked v embarrassed, I don't think she cared much whether DIL cooked or not.
In most middle-class (mentality, not just income range) families, the DIL is expected to become the next servant of the house. I'm not saying upper class families don't have flaws, but the number of DILs hurrying to occupy the kitchen or being made to is something I've seen particularly in that segment = the taking over from the MIL of the household tasks. An uncle of mine argues that it's done to include her and welcome her into the household as a family member but we know that's poppycock, don't we? When I think of all this, I get so angry I can't even believe genuine cases - I'm sceptical. My point is, you've managed till now, how does getting a DIL change anything overnite?

sowmya's creative saga said...

what else could one expect from a momma's son?I would say the question itself is so embarrasing( not only to the DIL but also to the husband and MIL ) to be asked on national Tv..

Hema said...

I was left irritated at the end of the show. I remember that it was between 'Old age and New age Moms'. But what ensued was a fight between MILs and DILs. This was a recorded show. The least the guy could have done was to request the producer to change what eh said. Looks like he did n't care much about his wife's feelings...

egglesscooking said...

I did see that show as well and the whole program was such a waste of time. I never watch that show but this time had to because someone I know was in the modern moms section. Anyhow couldn't get past more than 10-15 minutes of 1 episode. Actually I'm really pissed off with the attitude of some of the young girls too. They are so shamtheless revealing their private lives. I heard from my mother that some of them made such shocking statements on TV. The media in India is promoting too much Westernization, with almost naked dancing, venomous tele serials, making money from scandulous news to mention a few. Why they don't show how most of the adoloscents here take summer jobs whithout whiling away their time, how many of them have part time jobs while they are going to school, how young adults volunteer for a lot of community services. I'm not pro Western culture but believe that everybody has a good and bad side and media (be it print or TV) has a lot of social responsibility and I strongly feel that they are not taking their strength to influence people seriously.

BangaloreBaker said...

My comment might be an entirely different thing here. If my husband chose his mother's cooking over mine and if she is a better cook than me, I won't mind. I have seen people who have no problems accepting they can't cook. That is fine too. Where is it written that everyone should know how to do everything? Yes, the husband could've been diplomatic. About the mother in law saying that even after 3 years she can't cook a thing, if it is the truth, it is the truth. What is so bad about that? I have been driving for 11+ years, but I can't parallel park. I accept that and have no shame in admitting that. See my point? if it is the truth, it is alright to express the truth. Just my 2 cents. If I were the DIL and if my MIL had told something that wasn't the truth, I would've confronted her on the national TV. Forget about the consequences. If I don't stick up to myself, who would?